2 jumaat lagi and we'll be celebrating Aidilfitri.
3 Jumaat lagi and I'll be somebody's wife.
InsyaAllah.
Here's a conversation between me and ermm me (heheh).
dD2 : Cik, boleh saye menebual cik?
dD : Oh pasti. Saya rase glemer bila ditemubual.
dD2 : Apekah perasaan nye apabila semakin hampir dengan hari bahagia?
dD : Rasanya seperti makan cokelat yang mahal, sedap dan begitu nikmat.
dD2 : Oh bukan, maksud saye your feeling lah (sengal!)
dD : Oh sori sori, saye blur skejap tadi. Almaklumlah, tengah pikir pasal macam macam benda kan. Hmm cemane nak eksplen ye. Perasaan saye nih macam bercampur baur gitu. I feel excited most of the time. At times, however, I do feel nervous and anxious which is because I have no power of knowing how the majlis will turn out, will it be perfect, will everything be going on smoothly, will I be able to finish preparing everything on time and will I actually forget to do anything important? *gigit gigit jari*
dD2 : Tolong jangan gigit jari anda. Cik dah besar ye, tak comel dah buat cemtuh. *cough cough* Bagaimana dengan persiapan cik so far?
dD : (ngko nih tanye gini nak buat aku nerbes ke ape) hmm dah siap la ape yg perlu disiapkan awal2 tuh. Tapi dulang hantaran masih dalam progress. Time cuti nak raye nih baru la pulun siapkan. Wat sndri aje okeh. Berpeluh la perah idea cube nak jadik kreatip nanti. Kalau huduh jangan gelak. Kecik ati.
dD2 : Lepas kawin nanti cemane pulak perancangan anda berdua? Kat mane nak tinggal nnt?
dD : Oh this has never been an issue between us. I want to be where he is and I'll apply for a transfer :-)
dD2 : (eh eh senyum melebar pulak pempuan nih teringt kat tunang dia) And any plans about kids?
dD : Oleh sebab dah berumahtangga mestila secare natural nya saye nak anak anak as soon as possible. Semoga adelah rezeki kami, tak gitu.
dD2 : Ye, gitu. Dan apekah nanti akan ade sebarang perubahan imej selepas bergelar seorang isteri? haaa.
dD : Pandai ngko tanye soklan bonus yeh. Heh heh. For me, a marriage is like a turning point. I want to see come changes, both mentally and physically. And by saying physically, I hope I won't be expanding horizontally though. I would don a more proper outfit. I'm not getting any younger, I had my fun and it's time to focus on the hereafter :-) I'll try to speak less or probably none of hurtful things, I'll try to act more responsibly and have more patience. I'll try.
dD2 : Whoa, that's a lot of things to be done!
dD : I know. Duh.
dD2 : Any wishes or secret hopes?
dD : If I tell you, it won't be much of a secret anymore la dey. Heh. Hmm. I do strongly hope that I would be able to see as many familiar faces as I could on our wedding day. I hope everyone would be happy and wish us well :-)
dD2 : :-) Things will go well, don't worry too much! OK I'm having the urge to go to the toilet. Cannot tahan. Gonna have to wrap this up. Mwahs mwahs. Much love!
dD : Thanks sweetie! (sambil melambai lambai kepade perempuan yang tergesa gesa ke toilet dalam keadaan gopoh gapah)
Friday, August 27, 2010
Thursday, August 19, 2010
ku sangka panas sampai ke petang rupanya hujan di subuh gajah
Sekiranya anda mempunyai kadar kesensitipan yang tinggi pade name name binatang tersebut yakni :- tapir, kerengga, babi, gajah dan seludang, sila abaikan post yang menyusul kerana ianya tidak sesuai untuk kesihatan rohaniah anda. Time kasih.
Cerita hanya rekaan semata mata. Pernah dengar dari seorang manusia yang menyampaikannya pada puluhan manusia ketika berkursus. Silakan.
Pada suatu malam yang hening, Hafiz memandu seorang diri dari Kuala Lumpur. Dia baru berdating dengan kekasih hatinya yang kini merupakan penuntut tahun akhir jurusan pengurusan perniagaan di Universiti Putra Malaysia. Alah bisa tegal biasa, setiap hujung minggu Hafiz akan berulang ke Kuala Lumpur untuk menemui kekasih hatinya. Hafiz sekarang bekerja sebagai seorang Pegawai Kewangan di sebuah bank di Muar, Johor.
Hafiz berasa letih memandu jarak jauh. Sudahla tadi singkek dirinya terpakse makan besar di San Fransisco Steakhouse bersama buah hatinya, tetapi oleh kerana sayang diturutkan jua. Ape lah sangat makan roti dan mentega Planta setiap hari kalau nak dibandingkan dapat berjumpa kekasih hati persis Lisa Surihani pada setiap hujung minggu itu. Kereta Myvi SE bewarna orennya di pecut 130kmj. Hafiz mengerling jam tangannya, oh tidak, sudah pun pukul 1.25 pagi. Radio di ON kannya sekuat kuat hati. Lagu Usher berkumandang di sepanjang lebuh raya.
Hafiz berasa sangat lega apabila masuk di exit Tangkak. "Fuh, sikit aje lagi ni" bisik hati Hafiz. Tetapi risau juga sebenarnya hati Hafiz. Perjalanan di lebuh raya tidak lah sescary perjalanan melepasi exit Tangkak ini ke Muar. Jalannya lebih sunyi. Hmph, tapi, Hafiz anak jantan.. maka "akan kutabahkan hati nih" pujuk hati Hafiz.
Jalannya yang winding bagai ular dipalu itu menyukarkan Hafiz untuk memecut laju kenderaannya. Apatah lagi bila terlihat signboard "Awas, kawasan kemalangan". Ahh..gusar hati dia.
Malang sungguh bagi Hafiz, pada malam ini, tiada kenderaan yang berada di jalan kecuali Myvi orennya itu yang diberi nama Rocky. Rocky umpama side kick Hafiz, sentiasa setia di sisinya untuk berkhidmat pada bila bila masa.
Tiba tiba, sedang Hafiz bernostalgia mengenangkan betapa kasihnya beliau kepada Rocky, ada sebuah kereta dari arah bertentangan memberi high beam kepada dia. "Eh, ape pasal pulak ni?" Hafiz hairan.
Kereta itu pecut dengan sangat laju.
Makin lama, makin hampir dengan Hafiz.
Makin jelas Hafiz lihat bahawa kereta tersebut merupakan sebuah Honda Civic 2.0 yang bewarna putih.
Akhirnya, mereke sebelah menyebelah.
Pemandu tersebut menurunkan tingkap sisi pemandunya lantas menjerit...
BABI!!
Darah Hafiz rasa menyirap ke muka. "Kurang ajar! Aku dah la penat nih, ade pulak manusia bodoh yang buat perangai!!" Hafiz merupakan seorang pemuda yang cepat emosi. Pantang nenek moyang Hafiz kalau orang menyumpah seranahnya. Ini tidak boleh dibiarkan!
Hafiz lantas membuat U-turn. Sambil mengusap usap dashboard Rocky, Hafiz bersuara penuh semangat, "Go get him tiger!!"
Hafiz membuktikan bahawa kereta buatan Malaysia tidak kurang hebatnya dengan kereta import. Hafiz lantas meng overtake kereta Civic tersebut. Kembang kempis lubang hidung Hafiz gara gara oksigen yang meluru masuk ke segenap dadanya akibat amarah yang tidak bisa dibendung lagi. Apabila kereta Hafiz benar benar di sebelah Civic tersebut...Hafiz lantas menurunkan tingkap sisi penumpangnya dan melaungkan...
KAULAH BABI!!!
Lantas Hafiz terus membuat U turn yang merbahaya dan pergi ke arah Muar semula. Puas hati Hafiz. "Kau sumpah aku, hah, aku sumpah kau pulak!" begitu Hafiz berkata kepada dirinya sendiri.
Hafiz meneruskan perjalanannya secara lancar. Marah di hatinya sudah mula berkurangan. Hafiz bernyanyi nyanyi kecil mendengar lagu Usher yang dimainkannya. Hafiz adalah peminat tegar Usher. Oh my god~~ Hafiz bernyanyi bersama Usher.
OH MY GOD!!
Kereta Hafiz terlanggar sesuatu yang keras. Berpusing keretanya tetapi nyawanya masih panjang. Nasib baik Hafiz baru menukar tayar kereta nya maka pengawalan kereta masih terkawal dengan elok. Sejurus keretanya berhenti berpusing, Hafiz menjeling kepada objek yang dilanggarnya itu. Matanya cuba fokus. Dan...terlihat lah dia...akan sekujur objek di jalan raya tersebut. Seekor babi yang telah tamat riwayat. Atau lebih tepat, bangkai babi.
Penyesalan bersarang di hatinya. Padan lah lelaki berkereta Civic tadi menjerit 'babi', rupa rupanya dia cuba memberi amaran kepada Hafiz akan bangkai babi di tengah jalan tersebut. Tetapi sesal dahulu pendapatan, sesal kemudia tidak berguna, Rockynya sudah kemek di hadapan, tetapi masih mampu dipandu lagi.
Perlahan lahan..., Hafiz meneruskan perjalanannya.
"Cilaka, lepas nih terpakse aku samak Rocky...keluar duit lagi pulak tu nak betulkan depan dia nih.." Hafiz menyumpah nyumpah sambil terasa sebak di dada.
THE END.
Sekian, terima kasih.
Cerita hanya rekaan semata mata. Pernah dengar dari seorang manusia yang menyampaikannya pada puluhan manusia ketika berkursus. Silakan.
Pada suatu malam yang hening, Hafiz memandu seorang diri dari Kuala Lumpur. Dia baru berdating dengan kekasih hatinya yang kini merupakan penuntut tahun akhir jurusan pengurusan perniagaan di Universiti Putra Malaysia. Alah bisa tegal biasa, setiap hujung minggu Hafiz akan berulang ke Kuala Lumpur untuk menemui kekasih hatinya. Hafiz sekarang bekerja sebagai seorang Pegawai Kewangan di sebuah bank di Muar, Johor.
Hafiz berasa letih memandu jarak jauh. Sudahla tadi singkek dirinya terpakse makan besar di San Fransisco Steakhouse bersama buah hatinya, tetapi oleh kerana sayang diturutkan jua. Ape lah sangat makan roti dan mentega Planta setiap hari kalau nak dibandingkan dapat berjumpa kekasih hati persis Lisa Surihani pada setiap hujung minggu itu. Kereta Myvi SE bewarna orennya di pecut 130kmj. Hafiz mengerling jam tangannya, oh tidak, sudah pun pukul 1.25 pagi. Radio di ON kannya sekuat kuat hati. Lagu Usher berkumandang di sepanjang lebuh raya.
Hafiz berasa sangat lega apabila masuk di exit Tangkak. "Fuh, sikit aje lagi ni" bisik hati Hafiz. Tetapi risau juga sebenarnya hati Hafiz. Perjalanan di lebuh raya tidak lah sescary perjalanan melepasi exit Tangkak ini ke Muar. Jalannya lebih sunyi. Hmph, tapi, Hafiz anak jantan.. maka "akan kutabahkan hati nih" pujuk hati Hafiz.
Jalannya yang winding bagai ular dipalu itu menyukarkan Hafiz untuk memecut laju kenderaannya. Apatah lagi bila terlihat signboard "Awas, kawasan kemalangan". Ahh..gusar hati dia.
Malang sungguh bagi Hafiz, pada malam ini, tiada kenderaan yang berada di jalan kecuali Myvi orennya itu yang diberi nama Rocky. Rocky umpama side kick Hafiz, sentiasa setia di sisinya untuk berkhidmat pada bila bila masa.
Tiba tiba, sedang Hafiz bernostalgia mengenangkan betapa kasihnya beliau kepada Rocky, ada sebuah kereta dari arah bertentangan memberi high beam kepada dia. "Eh, ape pasal pulak ni?" Hafiz hairan.
Kereta itu pecut dengan sangat laju.
Makin lama, makin hampir dengan Hafiz.
Makin jelas Hafiz lihat bahawa kereta tersebut merupakan sebuah Honda Civic 2.0 yang bewarna putih.
Akhirnya, mereke sebelah menyebelah.
Pemandu tersebut menurunkan tingkap sisi pemandunya lantas menjerit...
BABI!!
Darah Hafiz rasa menyirap ke muka. "Kurang ajar! Aku dah la penat nih, ade pulak manusia bodoh yang buat perangai!!" Hafiz merupakan seorang pemuda yang cepat emosi. Pantang nenek moyang Hafiz kalau orang menyumpah seranahnya. Ini tidak boleh dibiarkan!
Hafiz lantas membuat U-turn. Sambil mengusap usap dashboard Rocky, Hafiz bersuara penuh semangat, "Go get him tiger!!"
Hafiz membuktikan bahawa kereta buatan Malaysia tidak kurang hebatnya dengan kereta import. Hafiz lantas meng overtake kereta Civic tersebut. Kembang kempis lubang hidung Hafiz gara gara oksigen yang meluru masuk ke segenap dadanya akibat amarah yang tidak bisa dibendung lagi. Apabila kereta Hafiz benar benar di sebelah Civic tersebut...Hafiz lantas menurunkan tingkap sisi penumpangnya dan melaungkan...
KAULAH BABI!!!
Lantas Hafiz terus membuat U turn yang merbahaya dan pergi ke arah Muar semula. Puas hati Hafiz. "Kau sumpah aku, hah, aku sumpah kau pulak!" begitu Hafiz berkata kepada dirinya sendiri.
Hafiz meneruskan perjalanannya secara lancar. Marah di hatinya sudah mula berkurangan. Hafiz bernyanyi nyanyi kecil mendengar lagu Usher yang dimainkannya. Hafiz adalah peminat tegar Usher. Oh my god~~ Hafiz bernyanyi bersama Usher.
OH MY GOD!!
Kereta Hafiz terlanggar sesuatu yang keras. Berpusing keretanya tetapi nyawanya masih panjang. Nasib baik Hafiz baru menukar tayar kereta nya maka pengawalan kereta masih terkawal dengan elok. Sejurus keretanya berhenti berpusing, Hafiz menjeling kepada objek yang dilanggarnya itu. Matanya cuba fokus. Dan...terlihat lah dia...akan sekujur objek di jalan raya tersebut. Seekor babi yang telah tamat riwayat. Atau lebih tepat, bangkai babi.
Penyesalan bersarang di hatinya. Padan lah lelaki berkereta Civic tadi menjerit 'babi', rupa rupanya dia cuba memberi amaran kepada Hafiz akan bangkai babi di tengah jalan tersebut. Tetapi sesal dahulu pendapatan, sesal kemudia tidak berguna, Rockynya sudah kemek di hadapan, tetapi masih mampu dipandu lagi.
Perlahan lahan..., Hafiz meneruskan perjalanannya.
"Cilaka, lepas nih terpakse aku samak Rocky...keluar duit lagi pulak tu nak betulkan depan dia nih.." Hafiz menyumpah nyumpah sambil terasa sebak di dada.
THE END.
Sekian, terima kasih.
love hard, love fiercely and never forget.
I read this on a note shared by a friend on FB. This is the link :-read here . Read on.
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside
the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage.
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
By Stephanie Halmilton
Sedih kan! This story might be made up but the hidden message there is real and often forgotten although I'm sure all of us know about it. Do not take things for granted. Familiarity often leads to boredom so don't forget the details that started off everything. I wish for all who read this post to have an awesome life with their loved ones and be spared from despair. Take care and don't forget to say I LOVE YOU to that special person :-)
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside
the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage.
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
By Stephanie Halmilton
Sedih kan! This story might be made up but the hidden message there is real and often forgotten although I'm sure all of us know about it. Do not take things for granted. Familiarity often leads to boredom so don't forget the details that started off everything. I wish for all who read this post to have an awesome life with their loved ones and be spared from despair. Take care and don't forget to say I LOVE YOU to that special person :-)
Monday, August 16, 2010
Setem
Time kecik kecik dulu semangat beli setem bagai, kalau tak ade, sanggup buat muke seposen mintak dari mak. Nak sangat setem sebab nak bagi kad raye kat pen pal. Ecehwah. Pen pal pulak dapat dari majalah Mickey. Ayat standard dalam kad raye pulak adelah "pecah kaca pecah gelas, sudah baca harap balas".
Ade jugak dapat kad raye dari kawan kawan sekolah. Ade tuh duduk sebelah aje dalam kelas. Boleh aje cakap selamat hari raya maaf zahir batin secare lisan tapi mase kecik kecik rasenye kad raye kat koperasi tu macam kewl aje kalau dapat beli pastuh bagik dekat kawan kawan.
Penah jugak dapat kad raye kat budak laki yang kunun kunun minat saye. Ececeh. Penah time darjah satu, dapat kad raye dari sorang classmate nih, die kate "saye nih adik XXX, saye suka awak" tapi alahai, memang tak canggih la budak budak umor 7 tahun kalau menipu. Adik die umo baru masuk tadika kot, mengeja pun tak betul lagik. Abang die malu la tuh nak ngaku die yang tulis heh heh heh. Lepas tuh ntah ape pasal rase macam takut pulak dapat kad raye tuh (takut kene marah dengan mak) pastuh koyak2 and letak bawah karpet (??!). Of course la mak saye berjaye discovered that thing. Sangat obvious kot bawah karpet. Tibe tibe ade bonjolan pelik. Hahaha. Ntah macammane budak berumo 7 taun berpikir puzzled me. Mungkin dah ade anak nanti saye akan tengok sendiri betape pelik a 7-year-old can be.
By the way, tetibe teringat pasal kad raye sume nih sebab saye tadi baru saje menampal setem kat sampul kad kawen ;-) To those who are getting married soon, just in case you're wondering how much does it cost to snail mail an invitation card, it's 60 cents. Sudah naik rega lah. Harituh baru 50 cents aje. Modern invitations do help a lot because I could just tag everyone on facebook and invite them to my wedding. I only send out invitation card to those who want a hard copy. Jimat jugak di situ ye. Hehehe.
Selamat berpuasa all! :-)
Ade jugak dapat kad raye dari kawan kawan sekolah. Ade tuh duduk sebelah aje dalam kelas. Boleh aje cakap selamat hari raya maaf zahir batin secare lisan tapi mase kecik kecik rasenye kad raye kat koperasi tu macam kewl aje kalau dapat beli pastuh bagik dekat kawan kawan.
Penah jugak dapat kad raye kat budak laki yang kunun kunun minat saye. Ececeh. Penah time darjah satu, dapat kad raye dari sorang classmate nih, die kate "saye nih adik XXX, saye suka awak" tapi alahai, memang tak canggih la budak budak umor 7 tahun kalau menipu. Adik die umo baru masuk tadika kot, mengeja pun tak betul lagik. Abang die malu la tuh nak ngaku die yang tulis heh heh heh. Lepas tuh ntah ape pasal rase macam takut pulak dapat kad raye tuh (takut kene marah dengan mak) pastuh koyak2 and letak bawah karpet (??!). Of course la mak saye berjaye discovered that thing. Sangat obvious kot bawah karpet. Tibe tibe ade bonjolan pelik. Hahaha. Ntah macammane budak berumo 7 taun berpikir puzzled me. Mungkin dah ade anak nanti saye akan tengok sendiri betape pelik a 7-year-old can be.
By the way, tetibe teringat pasal kad raye sume nih sebab saye tadi baru saje menampal setem kat sampul kad kawen ;-) To those who are getting married soon, just in case you're wondering how much does it cost to snail mail an invitation card, it's 60 cents. Sudah naik rega lah. Harituh baru 50 cents aje. Modern invitations do help a lot because I could just tag everyone on facebook and invite them to my wedding. I only send out invitation card to those who want a hard copy. Jimat jugak di situ ye. Hehehe.
Selamat berpuasa all! :-)
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
pak cici
Cici is our house cat. He is our little brother as my mom always refers to him as "anak bongsu mama". Tapi skarang Cici sudah lawan tokey dah. Cici dah ade little Cicis!
He initially has three but one of it had mysteriously disappeared and we assumed that it had passed on (it wasn't really healthy to begin with).
My mom calls this one perampok because he always sneaks in our house when we least want him to! He is not shy amongst human, at all.
Unlike perampok, stokin is really shy and timid. Even a glance could intimidate him. And he's the cute one!
My mom knows how to hold him without having him struggling to set himself free. My brother tried once and he failed miserably. He even ended up with a scratch. Heh.
Cici is not friendly with other cats as he can get very cranky with them. *Spoilt brat!* Bila ada mama lagik la Cici berlagak. He would be like, nyeh nyeh nyeh meh la try gado dengan aku, mama aku ade nak back up aku taww. This picture of him with his little one is very rare.
Cici dah ade anak dah, kakaknye bile lagik? Haha. Sila tunggu lepas saye nikah ye saye nih bukannye kucing time kasih :-P
Monday, August 9, 2010
psst nih between kita kita aje tau :-)
Maju betul hari nih sampai 3 posts! hahaha tapi sementara tenet nih OK and I'm not really in the zone to mark my students' PMR forecast essay paper (bahye tau tande kertas time tadek mood takut nanti terkedekut sangat bagi markah..haa..*alasan*), I might as well update my blog as much as I could and leave it dusty for a few weeks. Like I always do :-P
Ahem, nih ade rahsie nak bagitau nih.
Ade majlis yang by invitation only. It is happening a week after Raya tau. Sabtu, 180910. Save the date. Nombor dah cantik tu.
The venue is Dewan Japerun DUN Rumbia, Sungai Petai, Alor Gajah, Melaka. Hey hey name aje sungai petai tapi saya berani jamin tadek la bau petai kat situ. Kalau ade pun mungkin kat rumah rumah yang masak sambal petai atau lauk pauk yang ade petai aje, okeh. And no, juge tadek banyak gajah kat situ jugak okthankyou (jangan kutuk kampung halaman kami oh oh sensitip tau).
Jangan risau, invitation nih upload kat blog aje pun valid jugak. Nak masuk dalam dewan nanti jangan lupa bisik "Yo Alor Gajah rocks" -tuh password untuk online invitation.
Nih ha cover invitation card tuh :-
Ha, macam kad jemputan kawin kan. Tapi kene datang la baru tau ape mende nanti. Nih underground punya matter, kene la pandai kaver kaver.
Haih, sudahla kang takut ade orang tertipu sungguh sungguh pulak nanti. Dengan ini saye tulus ikhlas mulus setulus hati suci murni safi, menjemput kamu ke majlis perkahwinan saye dengan tunang saye Rain. Tuh name komersil dia, name betul dia Ammar.
Saye dah nak kawin dah. Doa doa kan lah ye preparation dan majlis berjalan dengan lancar, amin. Berbesar la hati nih kirenye anda sudi datang memeriahkan majlis kami nanti boleh datang tengok saya dengan Rain (@ Ammar :-P) duet nyanyi lagu Korea soundtrack drama full house.
Time kasih daun keladi :-)
Ahem, nih ade rahsie nak bagitau nih.
Ade majlis yang by invitation only. It is happening a week after Raya tau. Sabtu, 180910. Save the date. Nombor dah cantik tu.
The venue is Dewan Japerun DUN Rumbia, Sungai Petai, Alor Gajah, Melaka. Hey hey name aje sungai petai tapi saya berani jamin tadek la bau petai kat situ. Kalau ade pun mungkin kat rumah rumah yang masak sambal petai atau lauk pauk yang ade petai aje, okeh. And no, juge tadek banyak gajah kat situ jugak okthankyou (jangan kutuk kampung halaman kami oh oh sensitip tau).
Jangan risau, invitation nih upload kat blog aje pun valid jugak. Nak masuk dalam dewan nanti jangan lupa bisik "Yo Alor Gajah rocks" -tuh password untuk online invitation.
Nih ha cover invitation card tuh :-
Ha, macam kad jemputan kawin kan. Tapi kene datang la baru tau ape mende nanti. Nih underground punya matter, kene la pandai kaver kaver.
Haih, sudahla kang takut ade orang tertipu sungguh sungguh pulak nanti. Dengan ini saye tulus ikhlas mulus setulus hati suci murni safi, menjemput kamu ke majlis perkahwinan saye dengan tunang saye Rain. Tuh name komersil dia, name betul dia Ammar.
Saye dah nak kawin dah. Doa doa kan lah ye preparation dan majlis berjalan dengan lancar, amin. Berbesar la hati nih kirenye anda sudi datang memeriahkan majlis kami nanti boleh datang tengok saya dengan Rain (@ Ammar :-P) duet nyanyi lagu Korea soundtrack drama full house.
Time kasih daun keladi :-)
selamat mengharungi Ramadhan :-)
O mai god,
Rase macam baru lagi mengajar time pose sambil bersabar banyak banyak bila ada students malas mahupun extra hyper (pose ke tidak lah tuh). Macam baru lagik harituh beli kuih raya banyak banyak dan borong kerepek macam nak meniaga. Time tuh beli banyak kerepek and kuih untuk family si BF. Ye lah, strategi untuk merapatkan hubungan hehehe. Rase macam baru sangat lah! Taun lepas tak ade bonus maka terpakse make do with what I had and fortunately it was ample :-)
Nih dah nak puase dah kan!
I love Ramadhan because it gives you a very different vibe. It can't be explained with words but I'm sure you get what I meant.
This Ramadhan will be somewhat extra special for me. It's my final year going through it as an unmarried lady. Taun depan iAllah buleh sibuk sibuk prepare sahur and buka puasa untuk suami :-)
I'll be busy preparing my wedding stuff during this Ramadhan too. Memang akan pulun habis waktu cuti sekolah, a week before Raya. Nice jugak timing nye tuh, dalam seminggu rasa nya sempat lah to do what I have to do sebab tak sempat bila nak buat on weekends aje. Both of my family and his have been focusing less on Raya, ours right now is more on the coming wedding. Doakan lah everything will go smoothly ye, time kasih :-)
Tapi, sebelum kawin (tak sabar! hahahahahhaa :-D), kene lalui Ramadhan ini dulu kan. Sebulan berpuasa ni harap harap kita semua dapat menjalankannya dengan penuh baik :-) Mana mana yang rasa imperfect taun lepas harap buleh baiki lagi. Umur kita semua pun makin berganjak, secara logiknya kematangan kita pun kenelah bertambah kan :-)
Salam Ramadhan untuk semua!
Rase macam baru lagi mengajar time pose sambil bersabar banyak banyak bila ada students malas mahupun extra hyper (pose ke tidak lah tuh). Macam baru lagik harituh beli kuih raya banyak banyak dan borong kerepek macam nak meniaga. Time tuh beli banyak kerepek and kuih untuk family si BF. Ye lah, strategi untuk merapatkan hubungan hehehe. Rase macam baru sangat lah! Taun lepas tak ade bonus maka terpakse make do with what I had and fortunately it was ample :-)
Nih dah nak puase dah kan!
I love Ramadhan because it gives you a very different vibe. It can't be explained with words but I'm sure you get what I meant.
This Ramadhan will be somewhat extra special for me. It's my final year going through it as an unmarried lady. Taun depan iAllah buleh sibuk sibuk prepare sahur and buka puasa untuk suami :-)
I'll be busy preparing my wedding stuff during this Ramadhan too. Memang akan pulun habis waktu cuti sekolah, a week before Raya. Nice jugak timing nye tuh, dalam seminggu rasa nya sempat lah to do what I have to do sebab tak sempat bila nak buat on weekends aje. Both of my family and his have been focusing less on Raya, ours right now is more on the coming wedding. Doakan lah everything will go smoothly ye, time kasih :-)
Tapi, sebelum kawin (tak sabar! hahahahahhaa :-D), kene lalui Ramadhan ini dulu kan. Sebulan berpuasa ni harap harap kita semua dapat menjalankannya dengan penuh baik :-) Mana mana yang rasa imperfect taun lepas harap buleh baiki lagi. Umur kita semua pun makin berganjak, secara logiknya kematangan kita pun kenelah bertambah kan :-)
Salam Ramadhan untuk semua!
me! me! me! :-D
There's this one petite n gorgeous lady,
She looks so kind and acts so gently,
but beneath that smile lies a mystery,
only her closest friends will agree with me,
that her laughter is hilariously crazy,
...and judge a book by it's cover u shud not be,
cos often she's a terror and she acts violently,
bumps and bruises are the evidence on me,
But dont you worry my violent lady,
I will always be ur friend o Dd,
In good times in bad times we'll always be,
Forever the bestest friends since NZ...
and by the way, i'm just kiddin', okie dokie?
courtesy of my friend, Faisal Abdullah. He has been doing rhymes lately on FB so we have been pestering him to do one on each of us. I must say though, I would put it as "mildly aggressive" rather than "violent" :-p Thank you O Big Dedi F! :-)
She looks so kind and acts so gently,
but beneath that smile lies a mystery,
only her closest friends will agree with me,
that her laughter is hilariously crazy,
...and judge a book by it's cover u shud not be,
cos often she's a terror and she acts violently,
bumps and bruises are the evidence on me,
But dont you worry my violent lady,
I will always be ur friend o Dd,
In good times in bad times we'll always be,
Forever the bestest friends since NZ...
and by the way, i'm just kiddin', okie dokie?
courtesy of my friend, Faisal Abdullah. He has been doing rhymes lately on FB so we have been pestering him to do one on each of us. I must say though, I would put it as "mildly aggressive" rather than "violent" :-p Thank you O Big Dedi F! :-)
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